Francis Answers - 208 - When you see A hurting B, what are you going to do?

Francis Lucille

Location: Carlsbad

Dear Francis,

When you see A hurting B, what are you going to do?

  1. Tell A to stop or ask A why?
  2. Call the police?
  3. Leave them to take care of whatever issue themselves?

I wonder what is the “right” thing to do, if there is such thing…

Thanks. Heesoo

Dear Heeso,

There is no “one size fits all” answer to this question. In most cases, especially in the case of two lovers arguing, I would choose 3.

If there is a disproportionate physical abuse, an adult beating a child or a woman for example, I would choose 2 first, and then 1, telling them that the police are coming and that they should stop.

If we are talking about psychologically hurting others, I would talk to A and B or perhaps just to B.

In all cases my line of conduct would be guided by the circumstances.

Love,

Francis

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